Self Love Is More Than a Massage

Self love is sooo many things! It can be a quiet walk, a kick ass workout, a nap, a massage, saying no, saying yes, setting boundaries, etc.

How are you practicing self love today?

I’m getting some cleaning done (because a clean house makes me happy), meditating, working out, and then unplugging to be with my sweet family tonight.

After an interesting first week of July, I sat down (after a lot of tears and telling my husband that I’m quitting my mission) and I asked myself “what do you need right now?”

The answer was loud and clear: MORE LOVE.

I need to show myself more love. 

I also ask myself: “how is all of this happening for you (not to you)?”

The answer was “it’s happening to show me that I NEED to be taking better care of myself”.

This week, I’m taking the week of from my business. The only things business related will be client calls and a blog post.

The rest of the time will be devoted to recharging, being more present, and filling my cup.

When you’re having a bad day or a bad week, I encourage you to take a step back and ask yourself 3 questions:

1) How is this happening for you? 
2) What do you NEED right NOW?
3) What action will you take?

Do you incorporate enough self love into your life? If not, what is stopping you?

10 Self Care Ideas For Moms (and a freebie!)

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Some call it self care. Some call it self love. Whatever you call it, it is so important to take care of yourself. Read on and check out ten self care ideas for moms!

Before Mommyhood

Before becoming a mom, I had no problem in this department! Granted I wasn’t getting manicures regularly and would you believe I have NEVER had a pedicure?? However, I would always take time for myself: monthly hair appointments (I had super high maintenance blonde hair), weekend naps, retail therapy, etc.

After Joining the Mommyhood

When I became a mom, I thought, like many others, that the more I sacrificed of myself, the better mom I would be. I spent the first 18 months of the twins’ lives doing just that. Skipping meals, skipping showers, not reading (unless it was a children’s book), not spending time with God, not doing anything for me. I was convinced that if I put myself on the back burner, I would be the best mom.

Guess what? I was the opposite of the best mom. There I was: exhausted, grumpy, and probably pretty stinky lol

I needed a change. It was time to take care of me. I didn’t think of it as self care at the time. I just thought of it as getting my s@*t together. For me, working out and eating well made a massive difference. Just like Elle Woods said, “working out releases endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people don’t…” well you know the rest!

Make the Time!

So, listen up! Focusing all of your attention on other people will not make you a better person. Taking 30 minutes a day to do something for you does not make you selfish. Going out for a cup of coffee and sitting in a parking lot and watching “Uptown Girls” in your SUV while your husband is at home with the kids doesn’t make you a bad mom. (It was literally the only movie in my car at the time, so don’t judge me!)

I have actually found myself in desperate need of refocusing on my self care. I’m now a SAHM to 3 (3 and under). I have been spending so much time growing my brand and blog (which I love doing), but I haven’t been spending any time on myself. I’m totally preaching to the choir here, I know. I’m with you though! I am making the promise to myself and my family that I will take better care of myself.

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Self care doesn’t have to be expensive either. It doesn’t have to be a spa day, although that does sound amazing! It can be something as simple as taking a walk. Below, I have 10 self care ideas!

  1. Working Out
  2. Therapy
  3. Bath
  4. Massage
  5. Mani/Pedi
  6. Yoga
  7. Meditation
  8. Buy Yourself Flowers
  9. Read A Book
  10. DIY Project

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How I Made Myself Spend $50 At Target!

How I Made Myself Spend $50 At Target!

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Let’s play a game! Let’s say that I had $100 to give you, but you had to spend it on yourself. (Not the kiddos, but YOU!) Then I’ll tell you how I made myself spend $50 at Target…

I have to say, this would be really difficult for me. Now, before I became a mom, I loved to shop for me. In college, my friends and I would go to the mall once a week to buy outfits for the weekends. We usually went to Forever 21. (That may show my age. Do the coeds still shop there?)

Now that I’m a mom, it is soooo difficult to spend money on myself. I am always thinking, well, I should get this for the girls. Y’all! I don’t even want to tell you the last time I bought myself underwear better yet a new bra! It’s crazy!

For my birthday last month, our sweet neighbor gave me $50 and told me I had to spend it on me. I promised her I would but immediately started feeling this guilt. Mom guilt? I spoke with my friend and life coach about it and she told me to think about my integrity. If I tell my neighbor I am going to do something and then don’t follow through, what does that say about me? Wow! I never thought of it that way.

Off to Target I went with the plan of spending that $50 in record time. Is there any better place to go than Target? Seriously? You walk in and immediately hand over all your money! Spending $50 should be a cinch.

I walked the aisles. Looked at all the cute clothes. Realizing I had no where to wear them because, SAHM. I walked around the store for 2 hours with an EMPTY shopping cart. Two hours. Empty shopping cart. In Target! WHO AM I?

My anxiety was building up. I literally felt like I was going to puke. I called my husband and said, “you won’t believe this. I can’t spend this money!” I’m sure most husbands are wishing their wives would make that phone call and normally mine would too, but he agreed that I should buy myself something “real nice.” (If you don’t get that movie reference, we can’t be friends lol)

So, I did it. I spent the money on a new workout outfit. Sports bra. Tank. Yoga pants. Grand total: $50.03. Mission: completed.

Why am I telling you this story? Because I’m not the only mom who struggles to spend on herself. I’m not the only mom who has some small (or big) holes in those once sexy Victoria Secret underwear. I’m not the only mom who still has some Forever 21 jeans in the closet. (Gasp) I’m actually wearing mine as I write this. I’m not the only mom who wears yoga pants with runners in them because I wore them through 2 pregnancies and dang it, they were expensive.

It’s so important that we remember to take care of ourselves too. You can’t pour from an empty cup. There’s a reason on airplanes they say you should put on your face mask first BEFORE you help anyone else.

This could be as simple as taking a walk, getting up before the kiddos and having a cup of coffee in silence or spending that damn $50 at Target!

If you have momma friends who need to hear this, please share this post! ❤

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Are you needing help focusing on yourself? Check out my ebook on Self Care for moms! Plus get your list of 30 Self Care Ideas here!