10 Self Care Ideas For Moms (and a freebie!)

Self Care for moms
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Some call it self care. Some call it self love. Whatever you call it, it is so important to take care of yourself. Read on and check out ten self care ideas for moms!

Before Mommyhood

Before becoming a mom, I had no problem in this department! Granted I wasn’t getting manicures regularly and would you believe I have NEVER had a pedicure?? However, I would always take time for myself: monthly hair appointments (I had super high maintenance blonde hair), weekend naps, retail therapy, etc.

After Joining the Mommyhood

When I became a mom, I thought, like many others, that the more I sacrificed of myself, the better mom I would be. I spent the first 18 months of the twins’ lives doing just that. Skipping meals, skipping showers, not reading (unless it was a children’s book), not spending time with God, not doing anything for me. I was convinced that if I put myself on the back burner, I would be the best mom.

Guess what? I was the opposite of the best mom. There I was: exhausted, grumpy, and probably pretty stinky lol

I needed a change. It was time to take care of me. I didn’t think of it as self care at the time. I just thought of it as getting my s@*t together. For me, working out and eating well made a massive difference. Just like Elle Woods said, “working out releases endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people don’t…” well you know the rest!

Make the Time!

So, listen up! Focusing all of your attention on other people will not make you a better person. Taking 30 minutes a day to do something for you does not make you selfish. Going out for a cup of coffee and sitting in a parking lot and watching “Uptown Girls” in your SUV while your husband is at home with the kids doesn’t make you a bad mom. (It was literally the only movie in my car at the time, so don’t judge me!)

I have actually found myself in desperate need of refocusing on my self care. I’m now a SAHM to 3 (3 and under). I have been spending so much time growing my brand and blog (which I love doing), but I haven’t been spending any time on myself. I’m totally preaching to the choir here, I know. I’m with you though! I am making the promise to myself and my family that I will take better care of myself.

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Self care doesn’t have to be expensive either. It doesn’t have to be a spa day, although that does sound amazing! It can be something as simple as taking a walk. Below, I have 10 self care ideas!

  1. Working Out
  2. Therapy
  3. Bath
  4. Massage
  5. Mani/Pedi
  6. Yoga
  7. Meditation
  8. Buy Yourself Flowers
  9. Read A Book
  10. DIY Project

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Self Care for moms (plus a freebie)
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How I Made Myself Spend $50 At Target!

How I Made Myself Spend $50 At Target!

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Let’s play a game! Let’s say that I had $100 to give you, but you had to spend it on yourself. (Not the kiddos, but YOU!) Then I’ll tell you how I made myself spend $50 at Target…

I have to say, this would be really difficult for me. Now, before I became a mom, I loved to shop for me. In college, my friends and I would go to the mall once a week to buy outfits for the weekends. We usually went to Forever 21. (That may show my age. Do the coeds still shop there?)

Now that I’m a mom, it is soooo difficult to spend money on myself. I am always thinking, well, I should get this for the girls. Y’all! I don’t even want to tell you the last time I bought myself underwear better yet a new bra! It’s crazy!

For my birthday last month, our sweet neighbor gave me $50 and told me I had to spend it on me. I promised her I would but immediately started feeling this guilt. Mom guilt? I spoke with my friend and life coach about it and she told me to think about my integrity. If I tell my neighbor I am going to do something and then don’t follow through, what does that say about me? Wow! I never thought of it that way.

Off to Target I went with the plan of spending that $50 in record time. Is there any better place to go than Target? Seriously? You walk in and immediately hand over all your money! Spending $50 should be a cinch.

I walked the aisles. Looked at all the cute clothes. Realizing I had no where to wear them because, SAHM. I walked around the store for 2 hours with an EMPTY shopping cart. Two hours. Empty shopping cart. In Target! WHO AM I?

My anxiety was building up. I literally felt like I was going to puke. I called my husband and said, “you won’t believe this. I can’t spend this money!” I’m sure most husbands are wishing their wives would make that phone call and normally mine would too, but he agreed that I should buy myself something “real nice.” (If you don’t get that movie reference, we can’t be friends lol)

So, I did it. I spent the money on a new workout outfit. Sports bra. Tank. Yoga pants. Grand total: $50.03. Mission: completed.

Why am I telling you this story? Because I’m not the only mom who struggles to spend on herself. I’m not the only mom who has some small (or big) holes in those once sexy Victoria Secret underwear. I’m not the only mom who still has some Forever 21 jeans in the closet. (Gasp) I’m actually wearing mine as I write this. I’m not the only mom who wears yoga pants with runners in them because I wore them through 2 pregnancies and dang it, they were expensive.

It’s so important that we remember to take care of ourselves too. You can’t pour from an empty cup. There’s a reason on airplanes they say you should put on your face mask first BEFORE you help anyone else.

This could be as simple as taking a walk, getting up before the kiddos and having a cup of coffee in silence or spending that damn $50 at Target!

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Best Products For New Moms

Since I’m a “veteran” mom now (I guess lol), I have the experience of knowing what products I actually needed. With my first pregnancy, I wanted everything which lead to having tons of stuff that I actually did NOT need.

Cajun Shrimp Mac & Cheese

The heat in Southern Indiana this Summer has been insane! Add in being in my 3rd trimester of pregnancy, and I am not always the most pleasant person to be around. I refuse to go outside and have been living in the house with the air conditioner wearing nothing but a sports bra and shorts. Sorry, I’m not sorry.

Normally, I only want salads in the summer time; however, pregnancy cravings are a real thing. Baby wants what baby wants, am I right?

I made a post on Facebook recently asking about favorite cheat meals and one friend responded mac & cheese. It was as simple as that. I needed mac & cheese. Not the box kind. I try to stay away from box food of any kind. I wanted real, homemade, delicious mac & cheese.

I had already told my husband we would have shrimp for dinner, so why not combine the two? Enter Cajun Shrimp Mac & Cheese. You’re welcome!

Now this is NOT my normal, healthy eating, but, hey, it’s totally okay to give into cravings from time to time, right? It’s called balance.

What is your favorite cheat meal? I’d love for you to share in the comments!

Going Out In Public With Toddlers

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I have twin daughters that will be 3 in August. I love being a twin mom. I really think that twins are the coolest. Of course, it has come with its share of challenges.

The main challenge that I have noticed is the sharing. They have shared with one another since they were womb mates. They’ve shared a womb, a bed, clothes, shoes, food, attention, etc. I even noticed them sharing the last sucker today. They are pros! However, I’ve always felt guilty that there hasn’t been enough of me to go around. Now, with a new baby sister on the way, I wonder and sometimes worry how they will adapt…

I have decided to spend as much time with just them as I can when the opportunity presents itself. I’m going to take them for treats or to the grocery (their favorite adventure) or to a restaurant for their favorite burger and fries.  Maybe I’ll be brave enough to take them to a park alone! And yes, I waited until they were almost 3 years old to take them to a restaurant by myself. Seriously? Why didn’t I do this before? Because I was totally terrified! What if they have a tantrum? What if they took off running in different directions? What if they escaped my grasp and ran off in a busy parking lot?  What if people judge me? What if I lose my temper and become “that mom”. What if someone makes the dreaded comment after looking at my 2 toddlers and pregnant belly: “Whoa, you have your hands full don’t ya?!” or “Better you than me!”  What if they whisper and stare like we are a circus act? I finally decided to stop worrying about what other people say or might say and just do it.  And you know what,  we are a freakin’ circus act (minus the creepy clowns of course). But it’s our freakin’ circus! And those are our monkeys.

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Why do we let the fear of what other’s (mainly strangers at that) think keep us from doing things?

Why am I letting those possible situations keep me from making memories with this sweet duo before their baby sister arrives?

What a waste of time! So, I have decided to stop worrying about that and take the girls out. Maybe it ends it total chaos. Who cares? We are making memories regardless, right? Do we get stared at? Yes. Do people make comments? Yes. Do people help and open doors? Yes!

Today, we went to Wendy’s for burgers and fries. They did amazing! Then we went to the grocery pharmacy, and since it was an in and out trip, I let them walk since the shopping carts aren’t equipped for more than one child. This one was tricky. I kid you not, there were obstacles EVERYWHERE! Minnie Mouse balloons, a huge cage full of assorted bouncy balls, stuffed animals, toy cars. I thought I walked into a toy store instead of the grocery. (Why do grocery stores have toys?) Each girl was going in a different direction and reaching for everything they could get their fingertips on. I could just see them grabbing one ball and all the others come tumbling out into the aisle! How would I deal with that?! I’m 28 weeks pregnant and knew it was impossible for me to run away with the girls over my shoulders if total chaos broke out. Enter a kind pharmacy tech and the magical dum dum suckers! LIFESAVER! We managed to pick up my prescription and exit the store completely unscathed.

The moral of this story is to just take the kiddos out. Enjoy this season of life. Will there be meltdowns? Of course. Toddlers are the most unpredictable creatures. But sometimes, just sometimes, you will find a kind employee with candy to distract your child just long enough to make it back to the car.

(Disclaimer: I do not encourage taking candy from strangers lol)