We are all human at the end of the day, and sadly, we do have the ability to fall out of love or for our feelings to change towards our current partner. When a child is born into a relationship, splitting up can often be difficult, and it can be hard to manage co-parenting. However, there’s some guidance that can be given in order to get better at co-parenting and for you to continue to give your children the best childhood and adult life, ever.
Know That There Will Be Tough Days
When you’re separated from your partner, things change. You may meet someone new, or your partner could find someone too. Daily routines will have to adapt and change, and that can cause a lot of stress and miscommunication as you learn a new way of living. So it is important to recognize that there’s going to be some tough days ahead. Whether you’ve come fresh out of the relationship or it’s been several years down the line. There will always be disagreements and heated conversations, just like any family relationship. It takes time to adjust and even when you’re adjusted, it can be a hard balance to keep everything going.
Be Respectful Of Your Partner
The end of every relationship is different, and you’re lucky if you’ve managed to separate on good terms. However, no matter what the situation is, you should always have respect for your partner. The reason why this is so important is that your children witness first hand, how you behave around their other parent. And if you’re treating your partner with distaste or cruelty, then they will either make a judgment on you depending on their age or they’ll see that as normal behavior. What if they carried that into their adult life and treated others the same way? Respect the mother or father’s rights of your children, and that will be a step forward in the right direction for certain.
If you can’t get on with your partner, then keep your exchanges short and sweet and avoid shouting or getting aggressive in front of your children. They will see, hear and remember everything that happens, especially from an early age.
Be Open And Flexible With Schedules
Remember in relationships that there’s always going to be a degree of compromise. So when it comes to schedules, whether that’s school runs or who’s with who on weeknights and weekends, be open and be flexible. No one really likes the situation of having two separate homes, but that’s part and parcel of co-parenting. With you both having that flexibility, you make it easier on yourselves, and it gives your partner the opportunity to still have a life away from the children too. That’s not a bad thing at all because it means that you and your ex-partner can lead your own lives and focus on yourselves too when it’s possible.
Co-parenting is no easy feat, but the more you work together for your children, the easier it will become over time. Are you in a co-parenting relationship? What advice would you give to others?