It can seem like our twenties are one never-ending party, a period in our lives when the future is still all ahead of us, a chance to make mistakes and, well, just wait for things to fall into place. By the time we’re thirty, however, this begins to change. We no longer have all the time in the world because we learn that we’re in charge of our lives. You need to become a little bit more serious. But what’s the best way to do this? Rather than change everything, it’s best to focus on a few areas of your life and dedicate your time to getting them in order. Check out four of the most important areas to focus on when you turn thirty.
It’s easy to bounce from job to job during our twenties. We try a few different things, and slowly figure out what we like and don’t like. In some cases, we’re happy just to have a job that gives us the cash we need to make our other dreams come true. When we hit our thirties, however, it’s time to find a job that provides more than just a paycheck. We want to find work that stimulates us, work that we inherently enjoy. If you’re not currently in a position like that, look at topping up your qualifications and making a change.
When we’re younger, it’s the number of our friends that’s important. Everyone can provide something different, and the more friends we have, the richer life. But that only works up to a point. Eventually, you’ll have a solid understanding of who you are and what you like. At which point, it’s time to focus on the quality of the friendships, not the quantity. It’s better to have five close friends who reflect your values rather than thirty half-friends.
Looking After Yourself
As we move into our late twenties and beyond, it becomes increasingly clear that we’re just not twenty-one anymore. We can’t stay out all night and then go to work feeling fresh. If we’re partying too much, then other areas of our life are going to suffer. As such, it’s worthwhile finding a way to leave the party scene and enter something more settled. Reading, cultural events, and the like will show you there’s more than nightclubs in this world. But it’s not always easy. If you’re finding it difficult to say goodbye to your party ways, looking at entering rehab for women, and get help. It’ll provide the right space and treatment you need to look to the future with optimism.
Looking to the Future
By the time we’re thirty, we’re usually in a quasi-settled state. But that doesn’t mean that your fun, exciting days are over. If anything, life will get more exciting – providing you put effort into making it so. Make big plans for your thirties. You’ll have the confidence and cultural capital you need to grow and expand yourself into interesting new ways, whether that’s more nuanced traveling, motherhood, or anything else.
When You Turn Thirty
I remember thinking that turning 30 was the beginning of the end. Dramatic? Of course, but I had no idea how incredible my 30s would be. When you turn thirty you should celebrate this exciting and new decade. Age, of course, is just a number.